"Look at me: I've got a case of body language", Freddie Mercury
How to flirt with your body? Human communication conveys 7% of information through the meaning of words, 38% of information is passed through intonation and pace of speech, and 55% of information is admitted only with the aid of mimics and gestures. So that is the case of body language. How can we use it in order to understand the others and being understood? How can we arouse an interest in another person by using body language? Freddie got it right: this is a language for eyes, not ears.
Follow the eyes. During business conversation we usually fix our eyesight on the left eye of another person, then transfer it to the space between the eyes, then fix it on the right eye, and so on in a cycle. You can't physically look straight into persons eyes, but, if you follow this order you will make an impression that you do.
When we are talking with friends, the path is a bit different, it is actually wider. Our eyesight stops below the eye level of a person, then it moves along a triangle, which includes nose and mouth.When we are flirting, especially with someone we are seeing for the first time, the area of our eye scan gets even bigger. The more our sexual interest to the person, the more actively we focus on her (his) lips. Likewise, if the person you are talking to cannot lift her (his) eyes from your lips, while you are chatting on how you first time turned to the idea of dating online (or about your recent trip to Guatemala) rest assured: this person is already kissing your lips in her(his) imagination. Thinking this way is equal to wanting.
Do it as I do. What makes a difference between light flirting and strong desire in a body language terms? If you are really want to get involved with him or her, mimic the object of your desire. When someone behaves similarly to us, we conclude that we have a lot in common with that person. Of course, avoid imitating any negative features of this person, because such mimicking will easily turn into a mockery. In other words, mimic must be moderate, total copycatting will not do any good for you. Even if you are copying the gestures of a person, always take a minute pause before you do your part.
Move your eyebrows. Did you know that if you lift your eyebrows when you meet a person for the first time it will be a sign of friendliness toward that person. If the feeling is mutual: you will get the same up-down motion of eyebrows in response. It looks funny from the side, especially if one of you has bushy eyebrows, it will look as if one cannot see the other clearly through them. But this is one of the oldest ways of winning sympathy (who knows how many thousands of generations of cave men used this trick before actual language was invented)? Now, when you know, you can use it!
Where the eyesight rests. By watching (even secretly) somebody's hands and legs (postures and motion), we are revealing our interest toward the person. So, if you would notice that someone is watching with interest your hands, legs, feet, be assured, there is some interest. If you, after noticing such attention, will approach that person, this will tell that you have an interest too. At such moment it may be a good time to use spoken language: you will be heard!
Wink me! If you want to reach an affinity with someone: wink to this person. Do this several times, just as much as you can, but not overdo " you don't want to make an impression that you have developed an eye tick. If you are getting a wink back, then the feelings are mutual, now it is time to talk. So, now you know why Match and some other online dating sites are using "wink" as a sign of an interest.
Des has one Ph.D. and one M.S., which are irrelevant to the major subject of his writing: relationships, personals and dating To contact Des, see his other articles and/or access library of e-books and other materials on online dating, finding your match online, writing personal profiles, meeting single people and keeping healthy relationships, or for joining web dating networks, visit Orbiana.
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